Author Charles Duhigg does an excellent job with how habits work.
There is usually a cue that triggers the routine. Yes – I am aware of cues and triggers. But what caught my attention was his idea that a trigger could be a time of day or even a location. And with that, I’m picturing my couch, the TV and 8pm at night. I don’t believe I ever looked at time and location as triggers.
Ok – the trigger causes the routine to take place – couch, TV, up way too late watching stupid TV eating stupid food.
My reward for this behavior? I can’t even tell you. I guess I could say I get to be all high and mighty that I did something because I ‘deserved it’ after such a long day?!? Even as I write that it sounds ridiculous.
(Can we get to the good stuff please?!?)
And here it is…what reward am I craving?
I have never asked myself this question at all when it comes to a habit I am trying to shift.
So I sit here peacefully for a moment trying not to freak out, and what do I come up with?
I have no idea (in this moment) what reward I am craving in the evenings after a long day. No idea.
But that question in itself is a humble place for me to begin.
Would love to hear about the rewards you may be craving. :)